If Nobody Has Apologized for What Happened, I will…

That feeling of someone unexpectedly ripping your heart out of your chest and smashing it on the floor? I know that feeling all too well.

A couple years ago I was ghosted by a guy who love-bombed me for 3 months. He was charming, funny, and my family and friends loved him.

He said all the right things, at the right times, to make me think this was going somewhere serious…somewhere long term. We had already been friends for years, and it felt like a good fit until one day I woke up and never heard from him again.

This experience was brutal. Partly because I lost five years of friendship on top of the hope of a potential relationship, and there was no closure or explanation of why he left. He made so many promises he didn’t keep, and I never got a real apology, which might have been the worst part of the whole thing.

If you’re going through a break-up or experiencing the loss of a significant relationship in your life, I’m praying you know you’re not alone. And if nobody has apologized to you for what happened, I will.

I’m sorry that you’re having to live in this new, unwanted reality of it just being you.

I’m sorry you’re having to grieve the loss of a person and relationship you thought you’d have forever.

I’m sorry he made promises he couldn’t keep or follow through with.

I’m sorry it hurts so bad your chest physically aches.

I’m sorry he left without giving you any explanation or closure.

I’m sorry he’s acting unaffected by your absence—like he’s completely unbothered and has already moved on.

I’m so sorry, and I wish I could hug you. Give yourself grace and permission to gently move through today, putting one foot in front of the other. God is going to take care of you and your heart in ways he never could. Promise.

As always, this is a piece of my heart. Consider it yours. 🦋